Childhood memories are etched in memory, it is permanent. As a parent, you are the one who decides if it will be a good or bad memory.
Make memory a good one for your child. Fill them with independent, joyous and happy memories so they grow to be the individuals that reflect these memories. If you are a parent who believes in threatening, blackmailing or beating and shouting at your child as a good parental tactic, you are doing nothing but destroying the person that your child could become. If your child is slower than your expectation, if he/she is more active than you would like or if he/she is not as discipline as you would wish him/her to be, then you raising your hand on him or her won’t take them anywhere. Violence is not the answer. Patience is answer.
With your violent outburst, your child has gone through a range of emotions. You think it hasn’t harmed or caused a problem but your child has gone through fear, rejection, hurts, self-doubt and worse it breaks their courage. Your mere act of one slap or even a threat of a slap has had a physical and psychological effect on your child. Do you know how to reverse this damage? No because there is no way you can.
Your child looks to you for encouragement, support and guidance. They don’t know how to lead a life that could guarantee the results you want. Your patience is required. Hitting or yelling a child will do nothing. It will only lead to adverse effects. The child will shiver, have nightmares, will be fearful of everything around him, will lose confidence in his actions and will have effects on his sleep. It can lead to anxiety, depression and other such psychological problems. Your child can also develop physical ailments due to this.
Child abuse is not a matter that we can push away. Your child is left cold, shivering and develops a feeling of being unloved. This is one of the worst things to happen to a kind and tender heart. Stay away from violence, speak to them with kindness. Conversations go a long way, if you are disappointed in their actions, let them know. Do not raise your hand. Children want to impress you and look for acknowledgment in your eyes. If you let them know that they have disappointed you, it will be far more helpful at changing them. They are logical too, just need to be taught in clearer and kinder tones. Do not indulge in abuse against your children. They deserve better parents than you. Abuse is in two forms, physical and verbal. Do not indulge in either. Constantly insulting your children or yelling will also lead to the same things. It is time to act, spread awareness and stop this unnecessary evil.
Remember, it is easier to build a brilliant and beautiful child but difficult to repair a broken adult. Let their childhood be free of traumas caused by abusive parents.